Improve your mental health, relationships, and overall wellness while honoring your cultural values. This cohort centers on Family & Intergenerational Healing: What We Carry, What We Release - a space to reflect, connect, and grow together.

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A one-of-a-kind community program by award-winning therapist Sahaj Kaur Kohli for those living between cultures

Applications are reviewed on rolling basis so apply now!

You are motivated to take care of your mental health, relationships, and overall wellness…

there aren’t many accessible resources that embody all of your cultural values, norms and expectations. Maybe you're not sure of what you're struggling with and are trying to figure out the language to help you express your experiences.

This community program is here to support you every step of the way.

And yet...

What you can expect:

In this immersive and interactive 3 month group program, you’ll gain clarity on the family roles, cultural scripts, and intergenerational patterns you’ve inherited -- and how they still impact you today. Together, we’ll untangle the knots of guilt, secrecy, and obligation, and replace them with tools for boundaries, compassion, and self-trust.   

The second cohort starts October 16, 2025...

  • This isn’t just another group program...it’s a themed and guided journey with intention. Across 6 two-hour virtual sessions over three months, Sahaj will lead you through the focus of this cohort -- Family & Intergenerational Healing: What We Carry, What We Release. You'll explore inherited family scripts, practice new ways of relating, and reimagine what family and belonging can mean for you now within a supportive bicultural community
  • Live lectures with Sahaj, community discussions, peer support, and educational takeaways
  • Peer connection and support, so you never feel like you’re doing this work alone
  • Self-directed learning between sessions with reflections and exercises to deepen your learning
  • 3 workbooks that include foundational language, and tailored activities
  • Indefinite access to a private group chat to lean into community wisdom with support during and after the program (and connect with other alumni from future programs)
  • Bonus: 1 hour post-program group connection call with Sahaj

Here's what will be true…

✅ You can uncover the unspoken rules, roles, and traditions you’ve inherited, and reflect on which ones you want to carry forward
✅ You can gain tools to set boundaries that honor both your cultural values and your own emotional well-being
✅ You can practice new ways of relating - moving beyond guilt, conflict avoidance, or over-responsibility
✅ You can connect with others who do understand your unique bicultural and intergenerational experiences (you’re not alone here).
✅ You can learn how to accept your family and loved ones for who they are, while also giving yourself permission to create the version of family and belonging you want.

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This community program is for you, if you:

  • Are navigating the complexities of being between cultures, generations, or identities.
  • Want to break cycles of silence, guilt, or conflict in your family.
  • Are ready to invest in your healing and want both tools and community.
  • Feel untethered and disconnected in your bicultural/multicultural identity 
  • Struggle to love others and yourself at the same time
  • Are ready to reimagine belonging and community 
  • Want to end family and generational dysfunction
  • Want to rewrite the narratives you grew up with
  • Are unsure how to bridge cultural and generational divides in your own family 
  • Search for community with other like-minded, motivated children of immigrants

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We’re creating the space for those left out of the narrative…

Here’s a peek inside the cohort

  • Explore the unspoken rules and family roles you grew up with.
  • Uncover family scripts, silences, and secrets, and how they shaped your bicultural identity.
  • Map your family traditions, power dynamics, and intergenerational patterns.
  • Begin to ask: What am I carrying, where does it come from, and is it mine?

Closing Session: A bonus session to cultivate lasting connections and supportive community

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Month 2

  • Identify how old scripts still show up in your present-day relationships 
  • Learn to name relational dynamics — like being the family therapist or the good immigrant kid — and cultural norms like filial piety and enmeshment, and explore how they impact you today.
  • Explore roles like black sheep, cycle breaker, caretaker, or parentified child — and what it would mean to step outside of them.
  • Learn to notice your triggers (guilt, conflict avoidance, over-responsibility) and how to respond differently.
  • Practice communication and explore boundaries that respect both culture and self — including low contact or estrangement.
  • Separate your identity from inherited scripts and stories.
  • Rewrite the narratives you grew up with and give yourself permission to author your own story.
  • Imagine the version of family and belonging you want to create — whether that means chosen family, community, or parenting differently.
  • Create rituals of release and reclamation, and leave with long-term practices for resilience and self-trust.
  • Close with a collective circle of affirmation, vision, and commitment.

healing

Month 1

awareness

Month 3

reimagining

General Application (First-come, first-served!)


Financial investment
This is a 3-month guided journey with live teaching, community support, and lasting tools for healing.

By joining, you’re not just signing up for six sessions — you’re investing in yourself, your future relationships, and the possibility of rewriting the stories you’ve carried for too long.

To make this accessible: You can pay in full ($1250) or in monthly payments over 3 months ($417/month) or 6 months ($209/month).


But how do I know if I am actually ready?

I built this program so you don’t have to go it alone. You’ll be learning and unlearning alongside other community members and I’ll be facilitating this work as we go.

But the truth is: I can’t do the work for you. 

And “the work” can be painful, complicated, difficult, overwhelming, and more! I know, because I have been engaging in this work for over a decade for myself – as a mental health professional and in my own healing journey.

Only you know if you are motivated and ready. And I can’t guarantee that it will lead to the changes you want in your life (or at the speed in which you want them), but I can guarantee if you show up, lean into this work, you will gain tools that you can integrate into your life, wellness journey, relationships, and identity exploration. 

You are the expert on your own life, I am just here to hold up a mirror, gently guide you to your own answers, and support you along the way.

Sahaj Kaur Kohli

Facilitator of (Un)Learning

I’m Sahaj Kaur Kohli, a practicing therapist, a chronic pursuer of growth and healing, founder of Brown Girl Therapy, advice columnist at the Washington Post and author of But What Will People Say?

While I am coming to this program with my years of expertise, knowledge on cultural brokering, personal experiences as a daughter of immigrants and granddaughter of refugees… this program is not about me. 

My goal is to facilitate a collective space because I believe that everyone is the expert on their own life and by cultivating community wisdom, we can feel emboldened to claim our personal agency.

See what other previous Boldly Bicultural members have said about this program

This was a really positive experience for me. Boldly Bicultural is a deeply enriching program that builds community while building awareness. It offers tools for self-inquiry (collectivist vs individualist axis, is just one example) and healing that I haven't been able to get elsewhere, and it encourages solidarity among participants.

Take the leap, you won't regret it! You'll learn so much about yourself; you'll find that your experiences are shared by many others, and that you're not alone; there are resources and perspectives that you can take with you; and you may make some friends along the way. All of this in a kind, welcoming, and often humorous space. 

I've never participated in a group program like this before, and was a little nervous, since I consider myself a rather private person. I have absolutely no regrets. Sahaj is a wise and gentle leader, so very knowledgeable, and the group was lively, empowering and supportive.

My time in Boldly Bicultural was amazing. I learned so much about myself and how to approach the relationships in my life. I learned how more about my bicultural identity. And most importantly, I was supported by a community of individuals who share a bicultural identity as we navigated this journey. Thank you so much, Sahaj! - Sonali Demla

All my life I struggled with my ethnic identity, trying to find the balance between being an eldest immigrant daughter and an American teenager in a world where I was afraid to be too much of either. This program helped me realize that my bicultural upbringing wasn’t binary; I didn’t have to choose one or the other. I also learned that being both Indian and American wasn’t a weakness in either culture; I could be both and be proud about it. After going through this program, I feel confident in who I am as a bicultural person and no longer feel like I have to hide who I am." - Sim Singh







“Sahaj’s workshops & gatherings are a game changer! She gave me the courage to come to terms with my personal family history with shame and its impact in shaping my life outcomes.. The workshop gave substance and insight to limitations and obstacles I had been facing but had not yet been able to name or articulate. I came out of her workshop realizing I was undermining myself with my choice of words and inner attitudes, but also recognizing the family systems that created this outcome."

- S.S. Indian-Canadian female

Sahaj’s workshop is absolutely worth the investment! How do you put a price on realizing that you're not alone or broken? The Brown Girl Therapy community is one of the few places that speaks on the rarely discussed challenges of living between cultures and the pressures of belonging. Whether it's in a workshop setting or on social media, this community has been very supportive and encouraging. Perhaps our collective experience of being the other brings out more compassion and inclusivity. My life is better with the BGT community and Sahaj in it!

- Holly F. , Chinese-American

"I really enjoyed Sahaj’s workshop! It helped me in not feeling alone in all of my issues and feelings. I felt validated and seen by everyone there since we were all experiencing similar problems. I enjoyed the intimate space since there weren't a lot of us present. I also enjoyed that Sahaj allowed us to steer the conversation. She mostly just guided us with prompting questions and everyone else took it from there. From this workshop, I learned that so many others are experiencing the same things as me when it comes to dealing with living their own lives separate from their families. I felt like I belonged there."

- Jaspreet Kaur, Indian-American; female

“Sahaj is a kind-hearted, caring and daring leader. She led our sessions with grace, openness and humility. Sahaj created a culturally responsive space that acknowledged the different perspectives and identities of the participants. There was time to reflect, to discuss and to ask questions. Sahaj started by laying out the expectations of the workshop and took us through reflective, thoughtful activities that spoke to our various identities and experiences. She constantly checked-in with participants to make sure they felt safe and heard. As a Queer South-Asian, I was hesitant before the workshop to share my identity; however, during the workshop it was abundantly clear to me that Sahaj worked very hard to create a safe, intentional space that welcomed various identities. Sahaj listened to the feedback from the group and was keen on finding ways to improve her workshop. The investment was worth my time and my money; I look forward to participating in future workshops. Thank you, Sahaj, for creating the Brown Girl Therapy community. I am so grateful.”

 -A.N. (Queer, Indo-Canadian)


"This workshop was an invaluable brave space to connect with other like minded children of immigrants to discuss topics we (in some cases) didn’t even know were pain points or self limiting beliefs as strong as they were. We were able to have deep conversations with people we normally would never meet, because we came from all parts of the country (and in some cases, the world). I did meet someone who lived nearby and we are now connected on social media and hope to meet up once COVID is over. The workshop materials were researched and put together very well. Sahaj was a great facilitator. We are not broken, we are powerful beyond measure."

- Tania Bhattacharyya, Female, Bengali-American


"I attended the Identity and Productivity gathering with Brown Girl Therapy in December of 2020. Having been a lifelong overachiever, it was eye-opening to learn about the various ways culture can impact our relationships with work, whether that is our home culture or the American culture we live in now. I took pages of notes for myself, but more importantly, I was able to begin analyzing why my natural state leans towards wanting to be productive and how I can start taking a step back and be more intentional in what I do in my every day life and work. Although I’ve had a therapist supporting my journey, being able to learn from Sahaj and other participants impacted me much more and the love and validation I felt in that space is unmatched. Thank you, Sahaj, for creating this space and for your effort in educating and validating us in such thoughtful ways. I can’t wait to continue learning and growing with this community!”

- Nahid



"I am so appreciative of the community that Sahaj has created through BGT. The BGT Instagram was a great opportunity for me to become aware of Sahaj's work and to see the work being done to understand our community. Attending two Salon Gatherings in the past helped me feel the work being done to understand our community. I so appreciated the small group discussions because it helped me to feel that I was not alone, that others understood some of my history and together we can work towards understanding, healing, and growth. If you're doing it right, the work is not easy; but, it is healing, it is growing. It is comforting to do it with others and not by myself. I will continue to attend BGT events and look forward to learning more from Sahaj, the BGT Community, and myself - as I unpack what I have learned and grow to understand my powerful strengths."

- TG ( Sri Lankan American)


Will insurance cover this? 

What's the timeline for applications and acceptances?

How are you ensuring a cohesive and safe group of people?

Is this just for women?

Are you offering any scholarships / sliding scale options?

Do I have to read But What WIll People Say to participate?

What’s the time commitment?

What if I can't make every live session?

Will the live sessions be recorded?

No, this is not therapy or an official medical/mental health program. All costs are out of pocket.

Is there a refund?

Will insurance cover this? 

What's the timeline for applications and acceptances?

How are you ensuring a cohesive and safe group of people?

Is this just for women?

Are you offering any scholarships / sliding scale options?

Do I have to read But What WIll People Say to participate?

What’s the time commitment?

What if I can't make every live session?

Will the live sessions be recorded?

No! We will ensure a diversity of identities are present to allow for multiple different perspectives and experiences. This program is not limited to women; all who see themselves represented here are welcome.

Is there a refund?

Will insurance cover this? 

What's the timeline for applications and acceptances?

How are you ensuring a cohesive and safe group of people?

Is this just for women?

Are you offering any scholarships / sliding scale options?

Do I have to read But What WIll People Say to participate?

What’s the time commitment?

What if I can't make every live session?

Will the live sessions be recorded?

We make sure 15% of all attendees receive these opportunities.  Just make sure you complete both applications by Sept 24.

Is there a refund?

Will insurance cover this? 

What's the timeline for applications and acceptances?

How are you ensuring a cohesive and safe group of people?

Is this just for women?

Are you offering any scholarships / sliding scale options?

Do I have to read But What WIll People Say to participate?

What’s the time commitment?

What if I can't make every live session?

Will the live sessions be recorded?

No you do not! While we will dive deeper into themes and concepts in the book, it is not a requirement to have read the book to join the program. 

Is there a refund?

Will insurance cover this? 

What's the timeline for applications and acceptances?

How are you ensuring a cohesive and safe group of people?

Is this just for women?

Are you offering any scholarships / sliding scale options?

Do I have to read But What WIll People Say to participate?

What’s the time commitment?

What if I can't make every live session?

Will the live sessions be recorded?

Ideally, you will commit to 3/6 including the first session, and then everyone will get a recording of the live lecture series (not the community discussions) from each live session.

Is there a refund?

Will insurance cover this? 

What's the timeline for applications and acceptances?

How are you ensuring a cohesive and safe group of people?

Is this just for women?

Are you offering any scholarships / sliding scale options?

Do I have to read But What WIll People Say to participate?

What’s the time commitment?

What if I can't make every live session?

Will the live sessions be recorded?

The educational and guided exercises portions will, but the community discussions will not be to retain a sense of safety and confidentiality within the space

Is there a refund?

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